Friday, January 9, 2009
Why White Women Date and Marry Black Men?
In my years growing up with a father in the military, I always saw that experience as opening my eyes and mind to different cultures and ways of thinking. As some people know, I love history and how it has changed or shaped us as we are today. In my growing up, I really never thought of color (except for Army green). As I tell people (and as other military brats know), everyone was the same. There were no real class differences except if you want to talk about the difference between officers and non-commissioned officers. Your father or mother was a cook, a tank driver, a mechanic, or a engineer, but everyone had the same boss - Uncle Sam.
I can pinpoint my attraction to white females - that is a whole other blog - but with all the "problems" that some white females could possibly face from family and friends for dating outside their race, I am curious on what drives them to do so. One question that I have always asked my white female friends who date black guys, white girlfriends, and even white females I have chatted with online who date black men is "what attracted you to black men?"
I have gotten a whole lot of answers across the board from the most sincere to the most absurd to the down right raunchy.
Here are some of the responses:
Black men are dominant and take charge.
Black men are more romantic and sensual.
Black men and the Black Culture are so fascinating.
Black men possess strong spirituality.
Black men have full thicker lips for kissing.
The contrast of a Black man's skin color against mine is so beautiful.
Black men have great stamina in the bed. (Of course I have been told that myth is not always true, present company excluded. LOL)
Black men have large d$cks. (Again, this myth has been proven to be false by these women's past relationships.)
Black men and white women make the prettiest babies.
Because I was a thick girl, black guys tended to talk to me more than white guy and give me the attention that I wanted from a male.
Due to their so-called superiority, white men are very arrogant.
I just didn't like how some of my white friends talked about black people growing up.
To be a little rebellious against my parents.
It was a little taboo.
There is nothing sexier than a clean cut, professional, and stylishly dressed black men walking into a room.
I saw an interracial porn movie and I wanted to do what I saw on the screen.
Just curiosity at first.
All white boys wanted to do was get drunk all the time in high school and get blowjobs.
The white guys I knew had trucks with big tires and it was hard to get in them but all the black guys had low riding cars. (That was the most insane thing I had ever heard.
So I pose the question to all non-black women, What first attracted you to black guys/men?