Saturday, January 31, 2009

It is Jealousy or Crazy?

I am a person who believes a little jealousy, when it comes to your significant other, is a good thing. In moderation, it is a way that you can show another how much you mean to them and want them in your life. Not in a smothering way like the Bugs Bunny and the Abominable Snowman cartoon. (Yes, I had to reference that cartoon.)

Ask yourself these two questions and comment on your choice of an answer. If the answer is not one of those listed, write your own and advise why.

When you find that your significant other appears to be jealous of some attention (innocent or not) by another person towards you, what process goes through your head?

1. What is wrong with them? Nothing wrong with a little flirting.

2. Awww, isn't that cute, he/she is getting a little upset about this person. He/She must care about me.

3. I don't know why he/she is jealous. They could never be as good as this person checking me out.

4. Dang, I must have "put it on 'em" because now they are acting crazy.

5. Uh oh! This person better leave me alone before they feel the wrath of my significant other.

Well if it was 4 or 5, you may need to get away from this person quick before they find you in a shallow grave missing your arms and legs.

What do you think when your significant other never appears to get jealous of the attention (innocent or not) you may receive from another person?

1. He/She must believe our love is so wonderful that nothing can come between us.

2. They know that there is nothing wrong with a little flirting. Go ahead and look.

3. Go ahead check him/her out all you want. I know I got the best looking guy/gal in here.

4. I am not worried - I got that "good good" and they will be coming back for more.

5. They must not care as much for me as they say they do or led me to believe.

6. Oh, he/she must think that they are all that and a bag of chips and that I can't just find someone better than them.

So what do you think? Is a little jealousy healthy for a relationship? Why?


  1. Where do you come up with these blog topics? (eyes rolling)

    #2 is my answer for the first question.
    #2 is my answer for the second question.

    I don't see anything wrong with a "little" jealousy. There is a point, though, that takes you to the crazy stage, and if you or the other person ever get to that stage, you may need to step back and rethink the relationship. I have had guys that HE notices looking at me and he thinks its funny of the attention I get, that I never notice. For me to even notice that he's flirting or trying to holla, he would have to be very obvious about it. There have been times when I am very aware of a guy flirting with me, and when I tell my SO about it, he wants to know what he said, how he said it, etc. I don't think he's necessarily jealous, but just likes the fact that other men find me attractive, and also the way men go about trying to holla at a woman.

    I am really not a jealous person for the most part. I know my man looks good and if women didn't notice, then that's when I may begin to wonder, lol. However, there was an incident recently where I got some names mixed up and thought it was his sister messaging him, when it was actually someone from his past. When I realized who it was, immediately the jealousy popped up... even he noticed! That's not me, but I guess everyone has it to a certain degree.

  2. The topics just come to me out of the blue - I cannot explain it at all.

  3. I have my moments. Some times I could careless and wish for someone to come take him away. I'd give anyone a week with him to see if they can put up with what I do...I guarantee, he'd be back quick. But then I have my days where I'm thinkin' "don't even look his way". As for anyone noticing me...ha. Not likely.